The Uncertainty of Moving On

There are times when you're uncertain of whether you have truly moved on or get over someone. You think you do and the next time that person appears in front of you again, it takes you only about five minutes to decide that you want to be him/her again.

Have you really moved on then?
Do you still go to his FB or Twitter account just to see what he's up to?
Do you still talk about him to your friends eventhough your group of friends don't even know who he is?
Do you still think about all the what ifs?

I've always wondered whether I've really moved on from my previous love. I wonder if all the feelings were really gone. I mean, as of right now, I think the feelings are no longer there, but I know deep deeep inside the bits and pieces are still lingering around.However, I was pretty certain I had moved on back then.

Untill I watch Friends again.

So before returning home after foundation, I stocked up as many movies as I can cos I know I'll need them to fill my time back home and awesomely, Dila had all TEN seasons of Friends. Friends has been one of those comedy series that never fails to make me laugh when I needed one and it's definitely much better than How I Met Your Mother. HIMYM is great but they just don't make me laugh. Nah.

Anyway I've always wanted to watch Friends from the beginning till the end not missing even one episode. But as I was watching and going through the episodes, it really questions me about my status on the moving on part

If there's one thing that they make clear in the series is that you never really truly move on until you found someone else that you can love sincerely.

I've always stuck by the principle that you don't need to fall in love with someone else just to move on, but I guess I was wrong. I mean, of course there ARE people who can do that, but you never really what's going on in their heads right?

Take Monica and Richard for example. So in Friends, Monica met this guy Richard and they dated and she really really loved him. It took her three whole months to finally get back on her feet again and move on. She was miserable for the whole three months, crying everytime she sees something that belongs to Richard in the apartment, being in her sweats all day long, she was a total wreck. After all that hardship of getting over Richard, she accidentally met him again after a few months at a DVD store and all the feelings that was left behind just caught up to her again. and throughout the whole series we could clearly see how Monica, even though she has moved on, if Richard ever comes back and ask to be with her again, she would definitely have said yes as she was so in love with Richard once upon a time. And I knew the moment she truly moved on is when she fell in love with Chandler.


Ross and Rachel is another example. Ross had been in love with Rachel for ten years and finally, one day Rachel found out about it and started liking Ross back. But she couldn't tell Ross how she felt as he was already on his way to Beijing. Ross, thinking he will never have a chance with rachel, moved on and found another girl during his trip to Beijing. He was such in a steady relationship with the other girl and he was starting to think that he could love this girl when he found out about Rachel's feelings for him. result? Of course he broke up with the other girl and went to Rachel. They dated, they were so in love and they broke up. But no matter how many other people they tried to date, it just never works out and at the end, of course, Rachel and Ross ended up together. And you know why? Cos they were never able to love somebody else sincerely and they were each other's true loves. I sound cheesy I know.

I'm not saying that you need to find someone else to be able to move on, but somehow, and in some ways, that's the only way to be certain that you have moved on. Falling out of love is probably one of the hardest thing a person can ever encounter, and somehow I believe now, the only thing that can make a person truly move on from his/her previous love is to find his/her true love. A person he/she can sincerely love. If the person that he/she was previously in love with ask to get back together, and  he/she says no and doesn't have any feelings to even think about that possibilty, then he/she is truly in love with the person he/she is with now and has CERTAINLY moved on. Well. At least that's what I think.

Remember though He knows best and is the one thing you need to love and commit yourself to before you commit yourself to anyone else. :)